Why this happens
(spoiler; it’s conditioning)
Here’s the thing: the fear of being “too much” isn’t random.
For those that relate to this feeling, it starts young.
Maybe you were told you were too emotional, too loud, too demanding, too ambitious, annoying.
Or maybe nobody said it outright, but you noticed that when you were fully yourself… it wasn’t always welcomed. Perhaps you saw the rolling of the eyes or you were bullied at school.
Either way, you took o the belief; being your full self is not safe. And so you began to shrink, to dial back, to smooth out the edges and become palatable.
Over time, that shrinking instinct became automatic. It shows up as self-doubt, self-sabotage, people-pleasing, procrastination - even when you know you’re capable.
And for women especially, the narrative of "too muchness" is often culturally reinforced;
We’ve been taught that being ambitious, outspoken, or bold makes us “too much.”Â
That big emotions are not "OK"
If you’re a woman of colour, those messages are often multiplied.
The result? Brilliant, capable women who look confident on the outside… but are secretly holding themselves back and getting frustrated.
This program is about unlearning that conditioning and rewriting your story - one where taking up more space and being more self-expressed feels safe, natural, and deeply empowering.
